The lack of commitment to a "long term" relationship in some folks in the over XX bracket can likely be tied to their past relationships and a desire/need not to make the same mistakes again.

If you keep running into the same bad situation with the guys you DO choose to try out, then likely you are inadvertently choosing that kind of guy.

So no, it's not that there are different "rules," or that you have to change your expectations, to find what you want.

But you might well have to change how you look at everything, and change how you make your choices to get what you do want.

Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc. I want to be intimate with someone who wants to be in a long term committed relationship with me.2. The best advice I can give you is don't put out until you know for sure unless your just looking for sex, then it doesn't matter.

Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... when does it go from dating to relationship and how do you know? I don't think etiquette is done any more to be honest...kind of dog eat dog.. People lie, don't know what they want, get confused, get cold feet, feelings change and all on a very personal level..people just freak out, some give up, some get depressed, so the rules of etiguette I do not believe apply. Wow- so I'm not a prude; I'll stick to my guns and have confidence my match does indeed exist. I noticed the men seem to shy away from these kind off direct questions... It's just my opinion, but I really don't think there is any real difference at all between dating as a teen/twenties person and dating as a grown up 40+ person. The reason that it SEEMS to be so different, is that by going through everything they did in their youth, most of us older folks have realized that we really WONT have a great time with every good-looking person who passes into our field of view.

Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate. So we are quicker to dismiss mismatches as we recognize them.

I'm confused; what is the dating (over 40/single parent) process/etiquette nowadays? Expectations of sex quickly have ALWAYS been present.

The men who want to start a dating relationship; and I don't for whatever(could be lack of chemistry etc...) reason. The only change with age is, that people blurt it out to you out loud, because they are tired of hiding it, like they did in their youth; and they stopped hiding it, because they found out from experience that the primary reward for waiting, is usually that you spend a bunch of time doing nothing, before you finally realize that he/she is really after someone else other than you.

The men I'm interested in or mutual start out strong; but always with high expectations of sex quickly and after a mth or two I feel like I'm too serious and into "us" and they give me the I'm not ready for a serious relationship speech...really ? I am too picky so when I do meet someone that clicks for me I'm all in... When I was young, lots of people had sex almost right away with each other.

the key is communication but you have no garentees the person is being honest or will not change their mind.

The ones who insisted on following a plan of holding out for commitments, either waited a long time, and watched option after option turn to other people, or they gave in to someone who claimed to be committed, only to discover that people really don't know their own future after all.